fearlessness (*) is not the same as the absence of fear (*).
The fearless person is well aware of the fear she faces.
The fear, though, becomes a compass, not a barrier.
It becomes a way to know what to do next, not something that has to be denied or an evil demon to be extinguished.
When we deny our fear, we make it stronger (*). And trying to deny it doesn’t make us fearless (*).
But acknowledging your fear and moving on / choosing a new [brave (*)] mindset (*) is one that permits it to exist without strengthening it or letting it control (*) you.
via We’re both scared but for different reasons (*) by Jeremy Rolleston (*).
2:15am Fri 01 July 2011 - I found myself thinking about this closing Cemetery scene from Spiderman as I lay in bed reflecting on my day - the 2nd Anniversary of Jenny's passing.
The day had a few twists and turns I was not expecting - but that is the beauty of life.
Peter Parker's words seemed to resonate with me the first time I heard them many years ago with Jenny at my side at the Kogarah Mecca. Today they resonate just as much, if not more.
Postscript: I put the above video and words on my Facebook Profile in the early hours of Friday morning. For some reason this scene came into my head. I am not sure why, but I guess there must have been a reason. Maybe I would think of this scene once or twice a year and I always go searching for the above quote (now it is here I don't have to search too far to find it).
There are not too many scenes from movies I can remember as well as this one (another movie that is indelibly stamped in my memory is Fearless - a story for another day). Most movies I see, I am lucky to remember what the movie was about by the time I have watched the credits and walked out. A good movie might stay in my mind for a day or two. So for this scene to remain in my memory for 9 years, probably indicates some kind of association (for me, associative memory is my best form of recall).
Plenty of metaphors in the words and the cemetery scene clip - no need to worry, I don't think I have great powers, but maybe I feel a sense of responsibility to ensure that Jenny's is remembered and that her life is honoured.
It was a titanic effort from fearless Baz, says DiCaprio (*) by Gary Maddox (*).
Random recollection. Baz's Mother, Barbara and her Husband, Ross, were our dancing instructors around the time following Strictly Ballroom (*). We did it for a few years and we seemed to stop shortly after Jenny was diagnosed with breast cancer in March 1996.
Jenny and I decided that we should give the Bridal Waltz, at our Wedding (*), our best effort and we engaged Barbara and Ross to choreography our waltz, and to give us a few lessons to learn and master our steps. It all went marvelously well on the big day and we surprised ourselves, along with all our Family and Friends.
